Boys,
People lean two major ways. One way is people who let the world happen to them. The other way is people who happen to the world.
Each method/characteristic has its own advantages and disadvantages. People who let the world happen to them tend to be easier going. They live and let live, seldom imposing their own will onto a situation. They are calm. If they aren’t careful, they can get walked on or taken advantage of by the world and by others.
People who happen to the world impose their will on situations and people. They are more likely to get what they want, but also, ironically, somewhat more likely to be unhappy with what they get. They take charge, lead others, and shape the world around them in a way that most others do not. However, if they aren’t careful, they will find they’re never happy because, ultimately, God/fate/luck/destiny has a lot to do with outcomes.
Neither way is wrong nor right. The vast majority of people, while leaning to one side, have elements of both sides in them. You Mom leans to the let the world happen side, while I lean the other way. However, we both have the ability to take on the opposite characteristics.
Learning to which side you lean can be helpful. You will know yourself a little bit more and you will recognize your own behaviors. When it’s time to take on the role you do not frequent, you’ll be better at that too.
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It’s the summer of 2014. Decker, you were in camp this summer at Bryn Mawr Little School, where you’ll start school in two weeks. Gibson, you were home with Mommy, who had some help from Emily and Mackenzie. We went to the Greentree Pool, hung out, and learned how to sleep. It’s been a good summer. We’re a family! The four of us. I’m so happy you guys have each other.
I love you both tons!
Dad