A Healthy Amount of Self Interest is Good

by Byron on May 8, 2014

Dear Decker,

I put up this post on Injury Lawyer Database today and I caught myself thinking, “This sounds really cold.”  After all, it says,

“The system does not care about you.  One insurance adjuster might be paid to pretend to care about you – maybe they actually do – but when faced with getting good reviews at their job or giving you more, they will pick themselves every time.  It’s simply human nature.  I do not begrudge them anything.  But I would never trust them to look out for my interests over their own.”

I’m not sure what “system” I’m talking about.  A lack of care is not the way of the world.  It is, however, the way of capitalism.  And since capitalism is an extension of humans, maybe it’s the way of humans.

People care about themselves more than they care about you.  That’s why it’s vitally important to have people who care about you as much or more than they care about themselves.  I’d die for you.  For your Mom and your unborn baby brother, too.  Family is important.  Some friends can be like family too.  Sometimes, the kindness of strangers is just as powerful.

My point is simply we can’t expect that people will look out for us out there in the world unless they are close to us.  And that’s okay.  As long as people aren’t hurting you or anyone else, it’s okay for them to look out for themselves a little bit more.  Being aware of this is important.

But if you have a relationship with someone you need to put first, it’s important to live up to that.  Your little brother is going to look to you for what to do and how to think and how to do just about everything.  It’s vital to look out for your little brother.  I hope one day you will be great friends, best friends.  Maybe you will and maybe you won’t, but he is your brother.

You are getting big!  You are talking.  You’re always on the move, always excited.  “GO!” is one of your favorite words.  You like looking up at planes.  You like to see doggies, especially big doggies.  You still love your Pop-pop.  You went up to Mom the other day, put your head underneath her big belly and said, “Bay-bee.”  I’m not sure if you know your brother is coming or not, but I think you know something is up.

That’s the update.  We love you tons.

Love,

Dad

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