Two things I love from Gibson

by Byron on February 13, 2017


One thing I love: You have a show that you like to watch called “Fresh Beat Band of Spies.”  It’s about a band of spies that doubles as an actual rock band always ready to drop fresh beats.  Whenever I ask you what you want to watch you say, “Rappy da Pies!  Rappy da Pies!”

Another thing I love: When I put you to bed, you put your hand through the slats on your big boy bed and I lay on the floor and we hold hands for a little bit while you’re falling asleep.  Lately, you have been doing with me what I’ve been doing with Decker for a year or more… when I leave your room at night while you’re falling asleep, I blow you kisses all the way down the hallway.  You do the same thing back to me from your bed.  “Muah! Muah! … Muah! Muah!… Muah! Muah!”

Love you,



Why Can’t I?

by Byron on February 8, 2017

Hey Guys-

Just a quick thought.  I think there’s two major ways of thinking when addressing problems, solutions, and goals.  There’s “why can’t I” and “why can I?”

Usually can’t isn’t really a good word in my world.  I don’t like to think I can’t.  I like to believe I can accomplish, can overcome, can solve.

Part of “can” thinking often involves asking, “Why can’t I?”  When something is unconventional, unusual, or pushes the boundary, many people will ask “Why Can I?”  But this is small thinking.  If we ask why can I, from whom are we seeking our permission?  Why is someone’s permission needed?  Generally, we take our order from the Golden Rule and, to a slightly lesser extent, from the laws of our society.  Beyond that, who is to say why not?  Why look for someone to say no?  Ask why can’t I, not why can I?

People have a more difficult time figuring out why can’t you than why can you.  Most things in life – especially the things worth having or being or doing or feeling – don’t have explicit permission attached.  But why can’t you?

I love you guys!



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