Mistakes, Values & Making a Mess

by Byron on April 6, 2014

Decker,

I made a mistake last week.  I was at a prison visiting a client.  The guard who was to let me in didn’t know the institution’s rules and was remarkably rude to me.  I told myself not to say anything, not to lose my cool, and not to cause a problem.  However, at some point, I openly used profanity regarding the situation.  I was asked to leave the institution without accomplishing any of what I was there to do.

By being rude, I was denied the chance to accomplish my goals.  By being anti-social, I wasn’t allowed to play in other people’s worlds.  The fact that the person I was dealing with was horrible didn’t mean a thing.  You encounter horrible people from time to time.  You have to be not rude and social with them too.  Either that or risk not getting what you want.

The key for me has been figuring out what my underlying values are.  Once I know about my values, I can try my best to make my actions align with them.  My values are based around the following:

  • The Golden Rule:  do unto others as you would have done unto you
  • Live and let live
  • Transparency
  • We’re not in control of anything expect the way we view everything
  • Help others in order to get for yourself
  • Do not hurt others

Once you have your values underly your actions, you can be more aggressive in what you do everyday.  You can feel free to go make a mess.  Start a business, make a friend, make mistakes, fuck some things up.  If the actions are in line with your values, any problems you create will lead to solutions.

 

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A Job Ain’t Nothing But Work!

by Byron on March 20, 2014

Decker,

I’m going to let you in on a little secret: Jobs suck.  You don’t want one.  In the immortal words of Marlon Wayans, “A job ain’t nothin but work.”  (If you haven’t seen Mo’ Money, see it.)

But here’s the thing…

  • You have to be able to financially support yourself in adulthood.
  • If applicable, you have to be able to financially support others.

So how does that work?

That’s the part you have to figure out.  Don’t worry.  I’ll help a lot and, depending on when you’re reading this, you have tons of time.  But that’s the ticket.  Figure out something you can do everyday to contribute to other people, such that you get paid for it.  That’s our capitalist society at work.  For the forseeable future, learning how to make machines do what you want them to do will be an automatic source of a living.  I’ve said this before.

Albert Einstein talked to his son about this point.  He said, “That is the way to learn the most, that when you are doing something with such enjoyment that you don’t notice that the time passes.”  You can read more here.  Find something you would do all day long for no money – something that benefits others – and you will find something that can help you make a living.

You also have to do your best to be happy, too.  Because if you’re happy, you can keep going.  If you aren’t happy, it becomes hard to envision doing the same thing over and over.

I’m here to help.  So is Mom.  So is most of the rest of the world.

Love,

Dad

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