America, Surgery, and a First Haircut

by Byron on November 16, 2014

Decker and Gibson,

I have a bunch of unrelated things to relay to you today.

First, I read something pretty awesome on Quora this morning.  I think it sums up America’s roots pretty well.

American values very much stem from a pioneer species, who, faced with great problems, took huge risks to better themselves. America is about reaping what you sow, making leaps of faith, having no confidence in authority, belief that hard work will be rewarded and should be celebrated.

I relate to this wholeheartedly.  Though coming from a background of privilege, I believe these things to my core.  And clearly I have no confidence in authority other than God, Love, and My Family!

Second, I’m getting surgery in the morning.  It should be no big deal.  But God forbid something terrible were to happen, know that I loved you both tremendously and I still love you tremendously.  Take care of your mother and each other.  Know everything is okay, always.

With that morbid bullshit out of the way, I want to apologize in advance that I won’t be able to pick either of you up over the next month.  I’m gonna be in some pain and I need to make sure I heal correctly so that I’ll be able to play with you guys like normal soon.  Picking you both up is my favorite thing to do, so it’s gonna suck for me too.  But it is what it is.  Better to think long-term than short.

Finally, Decker, you got your first haircut yesterday.  You did pretty well.  You look sharp.  And overnight you look a year older.  Gibson, you don’t have much hair yet, but I think you might be starting to get some teeth.

Aunt Heather just left after staying with us for a week.  We had a good time.

Love you boys!




The Best of Humanity

by Byron on November 5, 2014

Deck and Gibby,

I just came across a pretty awesome webpage – Some of the Best Moments of Humanity.  Acts big and small are super important.  And we’re all in this together.

Decker, you are starting to string words together… “Daddy’s car” “Mommy’s room” “Brown Bear, Brown Bear, what do you see?”  That’s your longest one yet.  It’s the cutest thing ever to hear you say it.  I first heard you say it last night.  You love Brown Bear.

Gibson, you just started eating food as opposed to formula.  You still have the formula of course, but now you have strained veggies too.  Pop-pop sees you almost every day at school.  You guys hang out.  He knows all your little baby friends – Landon and Fiona especially.  You are still super happy all the time.  Tonight Decker brought you a book and started to read it to you, pointing to pictures and telling you what they were.  You look at Decker with admiration, even at this young age.

On a sad note, Daddy lost his good friend this week.  He died of a drug overdose.  Drugs are really bad.  They steal people’s lives from them.  They steal people’s dreams and relationships with other people too.  Daddy’s friend was a good man.  He was kind and giving and hard-working.  He loved his family and friends.  He didn’t even know how many people loved him.  So so so many.

I loved him.  I still do love him.  I wish he was here with us.  I wish drugs didn’t take him down.  I pray pray pray that drugs don’t take hold of either of you guys.

I love you guys!



So Happy

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Dear Gibson, Man!  You are so happy.  You always have a smile for me.  Always.  Like almost literally every time I look at you.  It makes me […]

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Hey Boys, I don’t have the monopoly on good advice.  I probably don’t even a noticeable market share on good advice.  The below is an excellent list […]

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Decker and Gibson, Whenever I fly into Baltimore – whenever I fly into our home – I try to get my bearings, kind of see where I […]

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Being a Hater Gets You Nowhere

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Decker and Gibson, AVVO is a company in the lawyer marketing space.  For some time, I was an AVVO hater.  They will never work.  They don’t offer […]

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Guys,When Deck was young, he was fussy.  The inability to get your baby to stop crying is a tough, tough feeling.  Sometimes I’d put Decker in his […]

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She Wasn’t Really There

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Decker, Last week, we sent a video via text message to Emily, one of your favorite babysitters.  “Emmy!  Emmy!” you call her.  She sent you a video back. […]

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Brave is a Decision, a wonderful letter by Glennon Melton

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Guys, sometimes other people just say it so well that there’s nothing I can do except say, “Yep, this is exactly how I feel too.”  The letter […]

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