Knowing Stuff

by Byron on January 14, 2018

Guys-

Knowing stuff is over-rated.  I think your generation is really going to understand that in a way that prior generations have not, because of how easily information is accessed.  Knowing people is likely now, and likely to be in the future, under-rated.

Knowing how to access information will always be important.

Acting like you know something that you don’t is an ego issue.  It’s a waste of time and energy and will make you feel bad in the long run.  Gloating about knowing something that you actually do is a similar waste, likely to lead to you feeling badly.

None of this is to say you cannot feel confident in knowing things.  Conversely, feeling confident in your knowledge and ability to express it is an important life skill.  Knowing the difference between confidence, arrogance, and ignorance is the key.  This fact is basically as true in all aspects of life as it is in knowledge.

Knowing it all is not as important as you might think it is.  Oh, how I wished I knew less at various points in the past.

These days, I find such comfort in the ability to express the concept that “I don’t know.  But I’d like to learn.”

Love you guys,

Dad

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Guys-

It’s Christmas eve.  We’re on our way to Uncle Andrew’s and Aunt Heather’s in DC for XMas eve dinner.  The Grinberg’s are coming in from California.  Grandma and Grandpa will be there with Aunt Laura and Great-Grandma.  It should be a great time!

Last night, I did something I never do anymore – I went out.  I went to see a band play Jerry Garcia and Grateful Dead covers with David and Zeke Lowy’s Dad.  The lead guitarist is a guy named Chris Jacobs.  Mommy has known him since they were little kids – they went to the same elementary school.

I had a great view- right on the rail upstairs at the 8×10.  It’s very special to be able to watch someone do what they are obsessed with and born to do.  Chris just loses himself in his music.  He plays the guitar completely engrossed in what he is doing.  He becomes just a part of the music.  Without knowing for sure, I’d venture to say it’s impossible for Chris to have any fear, worry, care, or self seeking thoughts in the moments when he plays and loses himself in the moment.

I define that as manifestation of obsession.  In the best possible way … doing something that brings joy, knowledge, happiness, peace and/or love to others – be it one other or a whole world.

Now, obsession with self won’t work; obsession with material things won’t work; obsession with things that don’t serve others generally won’t work.  I can’t say these things as absolutes, but it’s my entire experience with the world.

So become obsessed.  Lose yourself in the music.  Serve others.  Do right by the world.  Not because it’s the “right thing to do” (even though it is).  Do it because I don’t think anything could possibly make you feel better.

I love you guys!  Merry X-Mas 2017!

Dad

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